THE question also seems to pop up often since a fellow cousin who married the same year as me is already almost 7 mths pregnant (stares at Zihan...u spoil market, man!). And also, I've been approached by kids lately (to date.been approached by 5 kids)...who were surprisingly friendly towards me and obviously invited many teases from people (stares at Idah....u know and i know!! Hehe) Heeez.
Alot of times, when the question is posed to me, I'll either keep quiet (and act as if I didnt hear anything), smile sheepishly or just say "Not yet lar, belum rezeki".
People, for the last time, I'm NOT pregnant yet! NO, I'm not on pills. And YES, like most women, I do wanna have kids of my own.
But, the hubby and I still feel that its not the rite time yet. Since ur all so blardy kaypoh to know why I am still not pregnant even after 8 mths marriage....here's why:
(1) Malay mindset = "Get married and straight away have baby"
I simply dun understand the old Malay mindset. They always think get married and straight away have baby since u already have the licence to do IT (bluntly put...sex). DURRHHH, I simply dun agree with it and I'm proving my point!! Have u seen those documentaries or charity shows with POOR people in SG/MY having 6 -10 kids...although they know they can't afford it. I mean, if u can't afford it, take precautions at least...and put up some kind of refrain. A baby is a huge responsibility...and not just for a day or two...but for the rest of ur life. So, I think its always good to plan ahead..to ensure that the baby has a normal and comfortable life.
(2) Hubby & Me = Need to spend more time together
My hubby and I have been in a long distance relationship for the longest time. We started dating in August 2000 and got married in May 2006. We have been apart the past 6 yrs and believe that we should at least get a chance to enjoy each other's company..to start with. (Pstt..I'm married now, but still have to endure the distance from hubby when I go back to SG).(3) Oz PR = Not approved
I still havent got my Oz PRship yet. I'm still going back and forth from Singapore to Brisbane these past few mths (can only stay in Oz fr 3 mths max at any one time). To some, it may sound interesting....but hey...its super tiring. I wouldnt wanna put my 'baby' through that....
(4) Oz PR application = Complicated & cumbersome process
God knows how long the PR application process will take! And a baby may complicate things even further
(5) Pregnant lady looking for a job in a foreign country = not attractive to employers
Ok, say I got my PRship, moved to Oz and in a pregnant state. I am not the sort who'd stay home and do nuthing...I'd die of boredom. I need and want to look for a job in Oz once i get my PRship. But if I'm pregnant, I doubt employers would even look my way (cos they'll know that I'll end up going for maternity leave soon enuff).
So really, my main goal now is to get my PRship, migrate to Oz permanently and then hopefully find a full-time job in Oz itself. Once I'm settled, then...we'll start the baby talk again ok.
Of cos, if god presents us with the gift of life, we'll of cos...accept it with open arms. But for now, precautions will be on the top list...Hehehe
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